Your friend is experiencing severe depression and feels hopeless.

Your friend has a history of suicide attempts.

Your friend has made concrete plans or preparations for suicide.

There is a family history of suicidal behavior.

How will I know if a friend is really suicidal?

The best way to learn how a friend is feeling is to ask directly. People are much more likely to share their problems with peers or friends.

There is no danger of giving your friend the idea of suicide. Quite the opposite, it can be a great relief to bring the question into the open. It shows you are responding and taking your friend's distress seriously.

What do I do if I believe a friend is suicidal?

Talk straight. Tell your friend you are concerned and wish to help.

Don't avoid the issue. It may be very uncomfortable for both of you to discuss suicide, but do it. Be sure not to belittle or make light of your friend's plight. If you seem unwilling to discuss it, this may reinforce your friend's feelings of rejection.

What should I do if a friend has a definite plan?

If the means are easily available, if the method is a lethal one and if your friend has set a time, the risk of suicide is very high.

It is vital for you to ask for details.

If possible, do not leave your friend alone.

Try to get your friend to professional help quickly.

Go along if possible.

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